After The Work

Ever try and go grocery shopping without a list? Depending upon circumstances, you might go up and down the isles trying to recall what is in your fridge and in the pantry. Did you need deodorant? Shampoo? You might have an increase in impulse buys that way also, filling your cart with things you didn’t really need. It is wise to check what you have, what you are low in, and make a list.

The spiritual life calls for self reflection, but things tend to be more tricky. First, we would rather not look at our shortcomings and our mistakes. We often do our best to not think about them; conversely at times we are consumed by our past and cannot see ourselves accurately that way, either. It can be as simple as putting pen to paper, describing our strengths and our liabilities in two columns.

Second, we can do so without a moral list. In an age of moral relativism, scripture offers us a “firm foundation” of moral topics that has shaped Western Civilization. There are details that may be debated, but it is agreed the 10 commandments are a reliable list to go on. Others may cite the “7 deadly sins” pride, greed, wrath, envy, lust, gluttony and sloth; countered by the “7 heavenly virtues” of prudence, justice, temperance, fortitude, faith, hope, and charity.

Finally, we often think we can do this alone. Perhaps there are things on your list that you would rather not share. It is important to find someone who is understanding and that you trust. It is wise to have another set of eyes to offer perspective to your life because we have our own bias’. Perhaps you have been too hard on yourself? Perhaps seeing our lives on the page can serve as a wake-up call.

The Book of James offers some perspective on this as well: “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” It points out that confession and understanding offers a person healing. Having another pray for you during this time is a powerful connection point to address the specific things you are concerned about. Remember, “where two or more are gathered” the Lord is also present.

People find themselves refreshed after such an exercise. It is a freeing exercise, some often feeling unburdened by their past. We join the human race when we see that another person is also not perfect and an understanding is formed. There is everything to gain in learning about yourself and nothing to lose but your guilt and shame.